She told me similar things in the past, and the ideas of it turned me on. But I had/have a hard time being more with her (never a problem with other women in my past). After much discussion, the route we have chosen (for now) is that she has a guy that she sees on a regular basis for her more sexual needs. He has become her Dom, and she his sub. They are exploring the BDSM scene together, and she really likes how things are going so far. It has also helped her to become more verbal, and open with me about what she wants. We don't plan on continuing this indefinitely, but for now, it seems to be working well for all of us. I think being able to her involved with some of these more things, and seeing/hearing a VERY positive response from her allow me to be more in the future. For now, she has told me that she would prefer that our times together me of a more gentle, romantic, making nature. and she wants to keep the kinkier stuff just for him. At some point the plan is to incorporate me into their times together, at least for me to be able to watch them. She said that she eventually be done with him, and expect me to step into that position. I'm good with that